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Couples Counselling
Communication is one of the most common barriers in achieving a loving, mutually supportive relationship. Lillian Hellman states that "People change and forget to tell each other." As you will find out, communication involves a lot more than just telling each other about what you are thinking.
Imago Couples Counselling
As Harville Hendrix suggests "Stop Talking, Start Connecting." Hendrix' Imago Relationships approach is a "New Way to Love." Like Hendrix, I urge couples to examine their negative patterns and find ways to eliminate negativity as a powerful way to transform a love relationship. We are all searching for Connection-connecting within ourselves, with our loved ones, and with the world. To experience that connection in the most powerful way is to have a positive, loving intimate relationship.
Have you got a Ruptured Connection--Feel isolated, lonely, disrespected? Find out how you can remove your anger and draw closer together as a couple.
Gottman Couples Therapy: A New Research-Based Approach
Gottman’s 30 years of research indicates that in 69% of couple’s conflicts there are no resolutions. Based on this statistic, couples have a choice of learning how to dialogue with each other or live in perpetual conflictual gridlock. Couples need to learn to work towards happiness by softening their approach to conflict. This softening includes improving your friendship as a couple and your secure attachment to trusting and loving each other. The major cause of divorce--80% of the time, is partners becoming emotionally distant and drifting apart due to a failure of friendship and intimacy.
Gottman identifies four patterns of behavior that lead to what he calls the Apocalypse. These problematic behaviors are criticizing, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling. When these behaviors escalate they predict divorce. Are you caught up in some or all of these Apocalytic behaviors that can lead to the collapse of your relationship?
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True hope dwells on the possible, even when life seems to be a plot written by someone who wants to see how much adversity we can overcome True hope responds to the real world, to real life; it is an active effort
Walter Anderson
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